Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Love

We’ve heard it all before. All love is self-love. So what’s the problem? There is still anger out there. There is still hate. There is fear. You still have frustration.

You hear that God is love. They say that love is everywhere. God is everywhere. Then why are we not all happy? It's because we have a resistance to it. Let’s try this. If you remove your resistance to love, then what is left? Love and only love. So, "you" can be the one to get started. Initiate love. Be the first to send love. This action breaks down the walls and barriers in our world. This is going to dissolve wars and hate. Soon.

You say, “Yeah but this guy is really an idiot." Then you really need to increase your love and your flow. Respect everyone. Begin by respecting your energy within. Respect yourself. You say, "No, but seriously, 'this guy' is a real idiot. He's the definition of idiot. Where is the label coming from? Your feeling inside.

The “idiots” of the world are acting from their own fears within. They are pushed, driven and goaded to act a certain way based on sludge and fear they have inside. Sometimes it comes out dorky. Sometimes they seem like a dufus. Appreciate them anyway. Sometimes it comes out angry. Appreciate them anyway. When you locate your energy within and appreciate them, you grow.

A way to increase your love is to give it. When you give, you unconsciously realize that there is not a finite supply. You realize that you “don’t need to hang on.” You can give and love will be replenished. You can give without wanting to receive. When we take off the scab of the temporary fill, we allow air to flow into our wound (or resistance). When that healing energy connects with it, we are stronger.

When you locate your own resistance within, you have connected with power. The following is a difficult concept for some folks to handle, but a child molester has problems. Love him. Respect him. His acts are not good, but at a core level he is good. He began his life “good.” We “know” his actions are not good. Love him anyway. Love your energy. Hope for him. Wish good for him. We are not going to move ahead as a society until we increase our energy flow and compassion inside. You say that you love everyone but you draw the line at child molesters.

The child molester may have been seriously abused when he was a child. But “that” is not the reason you should love him. That is not the reason you should love yourself. Yes, being molested as a child, doesn’t make his actions right, but he has lots of compressed energy within. You are not approving or disapproving acts. Love “your” own energy within first. Send out love to these people. It is like sending our prayer and hope for them to get better. Send love. The more love you send the more powerful you become.

Again, if you remove the resistance to it, all that is left is LOVE. At a spiritual seminar they discuss love throughout the whole weekend. People want “unconditional love.” Love is the answer. But, people leave that seminar in the same condition that they entered. So, what’s the problem? The never touch their resistance.

I am not here to define love because there is no definition. Love is the most abundant element on the planet. Love is everything. Love is the limited and the limitless. Definitions of love are around us. Love is flowing. Love is detachment. Love is infinite. Love is all intelligence. Love is all power and all energy. Love is everywhere. We are surrounded in it. We bathe in it daily. We touch it. It touches us. Love kisses us. It moves through us. It “is” us. Love is positive. Love is flowing. Love is infinite power, infinite intelligence, infinite compassion and infinite everything. But, mostly it is infinite flow. Love is energy.

Love is the slowly moving energy within you. When you love this energy is when you begin to grow. Move away from “intellectually” understanding what love is. Feel it. Let it flow through you. So, if we are not connected to it, then we have a resistance to it. We need to specifically locate our resistance within and clear it. When we do that, the only thing left is love. We know that a slight resistance is the simple separation. When we continue to notice this and reconnect with it, we are reconnecting with love. We will specifically locate the energy within us; know it is love and only love.

You can tell yourself that you love you all day long. It will have some effect. But, if the sludge is still there, you’ll either give up with putting notes on the bathroom mirror for yourself or you just won’t feel the love. Love is not a “thing,” nor does it feed a specific part of us. We realize by now that we have to get out of our head and become whole. This is not an intellectual pursuit nor is this soap opera type love. The flow of love is outward. It is unselfish and flowing toward another person or object. It is all yes and all positive. There is no “no” in love. Loving a child is a healthy energy flow. When you respect it is flowing positively. When you appreciate, it’s positive.
The primary message here is to know the flow of love. Writing has filled up books defining love and unconditional love.

Let’s go to http://www.dictionary.com/ again! This is what we have:

love/
–noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
6. a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7. sexual intercourse; copulation.
8. ( initial capital letter ) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.
9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.
11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
12. the benevolent affection of god for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
13. Chiefly Tennis . a score of zero; nothing.
14. a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L.

Depending on how you perceive the definitions, there are eight forms of soap opera type love. Passionate affection, personal attachment, sexual desire, a love affair, sexual intercourse, sexual affection, affection for others, and other forms of love are mentioned “before” God’s Love: “the benevolent affection of god for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.”

Love in our world is “feeding the pain inside.” It’s feeding the sludge. Unfortunately, this has become our “most desired state.” It’s good because it touches are area inside that doesn’t get touched much. It touches an area that we keep safe under lock and key. It feels good to have this touched. But, it just gives us medicinal dosages of “love,” which is just attention, approval and so on.

To increase our health and wholeness love people as God does. If someone acts like an idiot, we can move past that and love them. Remember, if “they” act like an idiot, it is “your” inside that is stirred up. It is “your” energy. Perceiving them as an idiot allows you the opportunity to grow and increase strength.

Maybe you grew up with your Dad calling you, “chum” and your Mom saying, “I love you” each day before you left for school. Some people didn’t. What about the baby that was tossed in the air and hit the ceiling? What about the baby that was dropped? What about the baby that was whipped before he was two years old?

What about the child who was called a worthless piece of crap daily while growing up? You feel for these kids. But, an adult why do we stop feeling for them? You say, “the adult should know better.” Inside of this adult is compressed energy that is “current” within them. It is stored inside of them. At some point, they are going to lash out. These are problems that “exist” and can’t be suppressed or avoided.

True love never fails.
This could be an automatic let down because your sludge exists. You are honest and truthful. So, you say, what do you mean? It failed me. “True love never fails,” are just words. Flow is love. Letting go is love. Connecting with your deepest inside and flowing. That is love. It’s simple. You don’t have to work hard. You just need to connect inside and love that feeling within you. Send that feeling out again and again. It replenishes.

You are thinking that love needs to come from the outside to connect with, calm or heal your “own” hurt inside. The true love must come from within. It comes from noticing and connecting with your own sludge. You initiate the flow.

Love is bliss and power.
Sure, but if you are jam packed with sludge, then this statement will fail you too. All of these statements can be made. It all can be said. But, what does it do? You are holding onto your energy and resisting your power. So, you cut off your power and use a small portion of it to understand the statement that says, “Love is bliss and power.” You go oh and ah, thinking you are transforming but nothing has happened except having some candy.

I have a habit at night before I go to bed. I pick someone who I “don’t like,” or I pick someone who has done something which I don’t like. I send love to that person. I feel the energy that gets stirred "within me" when I think him or her. If I use the term, “scumbag” then I send love to him or her and realize that the “only” place the label “scumbag” is created is within me. So, it is my responsibility to clear it, connect with it and turn it into positive energy and love.

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Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Research

I like movies set in California or New York City. Watching movies is such an experience. They are so well done, you feel like you have visited these places. It’s great to absorb the feel of the movie. You might like a scene in the Bahamas in a movie or a scene in the countryside. I like a movie recently that began in Mexico, traveled through Texas and ended up in New Jersey.

I was able to get a feel for a moment of what it would be like to live in Mexico. I saw a brief perspective of the families, the houses, the land and the commerce. In a movie, you can absorb someone else’s perspective. We expand our awareness while being entertained. Books and self-development programs can be like watching movies. Many of the books that we read allow us to absorb perspective, expand us and be entertained. You might hear a speaker talk about how they spent three years in India meditating. Another author went to Harvard. Many authors have PHD after their name. Still other authors have experienced success in business, like a book by Donald Trump.

We are able to take in information and experience. We can learn things from those who have experienced. That will reduce our learning curve. Many years ago, I read a book called, “Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive.” I was in my automotive distributorship business at the time. I remember picking up dozens of great business tips from the author Harvey Mackay. I had read many books but this one was the one that I liked the most at that time.

I worked long hours in my business. While many tips were useful, one piece of advice I specifically remember is that Harvey sent out thank you notes to his customers. I did the same thing with every one of my new customers and often communicated with other customers through the mail. Each customer noticed and appreciated that token of thoughtfulness. From that book, I expanded and learned.

In truth, that business of mine failed. It goes to show you that there are other powers at work. There are deeper powers. “That” is what I wanted to find. The perspective that I want to bring to you is simple. It comes from listening to my insides. Yes, I researched and read as much as most have. But the critical definitions come from looking inside and using my own filter to see if this really works and this really makes sense.

Did it work for me? Most self-help programs didn’t. For many years I wouldn’t admit it! That’s because all the testimonials were rave reviews. I felt embarrassed that I did not receive the results. There was either something wrong with me or the "problem" was not correctly identified. This was opportunity for me to dig more deeply inside of myself and pull out the core issue that needed resolving. I did.

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Monday, November 15, 2010

Powerful

This is hard to watch, but it these are situations which we need to embrace and give. I love the kids, Sam and Esther, in this video and I love the girl Jane in this video. I write about Jane's example of intelligence, love and beautiful spirit. Watch the one minute follow up video also.

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About a year later here is Jane, so sweet and beautiful. She looks healthy and happy.

Jane about one year later.

One of the reasons that I posted these videos is to illustrate a point, which is in Jane's energy. Jane didn’t complain. She did not regret. She did not blame her parents for not being there. She only showed energy flow, beauty and positivity. She is love. She is caring. She is unafraid. She is responsible. She is not feeding “negative” energy.

Jane didn’t wake up and prepare herself for a film crew coming in. She had no idea. She “only” loved, supported and “was” beauty. She lived her life with the beautiful energy that she is. She is the most beautiful girl in the world with her energy flowing.

We all have the same energy within us. Let us all reconnect and look up to Jane. Let us model the beauty of Jane. Let us model the strength of Jane. One year later after some generous donations, Sam and Esther were stabilized, well fed and their polio was being taken care of. Jane is in school learning, but now smiling with an amazingly sweet smile and happiness.

Underneath, we all have this energy. We need to connect with it. Religions argue "specific points" and interpretations of this beautiful energy (Spirit, God, Universe, Source or whatever you call it). A lot of damage has been done by bickering about interpretations of something beautiful.

Our first step is to locate our own energy within. Even if you are watching the cable news shows and their energy is angry and non-problem solving, locate your own energy. Jane provides solutions without ego. Become powerful yourself. Connect with your own beauty - no excuses, no blame, no regret - just like Jane.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Ray of sunshine

I always say that, "all of the energy in the world is good. Any perceived "negative" is only resistance to that good energy. So, in Goodology, there is a process where you specifically locate that resisted energy within you and turn it into a positive flow. You can see good energy everywhere. Reinstall it inside of yourself.

My brother volunteered me as a coach for one of his baseball teams. He has scout teams which involve kids ages 12 to 18. All of these kids will go on to play college ball, many will play minor league ball and there could even be a major leaguer or two in there. They are talented and driven to excel.

Most of the time the kids are serious and focused on the game. They support the pitcher, the hitter and their teammates from the bench. My group was 13 and 14 years olds. At thirteen years old, you cannot be serious all the time. I really hadn’t seen Justin smile before. He was a catcher and always focused on the game.

We sat on the bench when the team was on defense and Justin was not in the game. He put a wet white towel under his hat. At 106 degrees in Phoenix, you can do things like that. And you should do things like that! He was looking to the left at his teammates with a white towel hanging under his hat below his ears. To them it just looked funny and he got some laughs. They got silly for a moment. When Justin turned to me, I saw him; his teeth were as white as the towel and his smile was as bright as the Phoenix sun.

For that moment, Justin’s smile was flowing energy through his body. It was pure energy. Look at that smile. He was glowing for a moment. There was “no” negative energy in his body. It was healthy. Be silly. Appreciate silly. Laugh. Appreciate laughter. Justin’s smile had nothing to do with a TV sitcom sex joke. It was nothing that would make him feel older or younger. It was pure energy and purely nice to see. “That” is healthy.

Notice incidents like this in your world. Locate any resisted energy within you and turn it to good.

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Saturday, November 13, 2010

More good energy

I was in a convenience store near my home in Fountain Hills, Arizona. I noticed a young girl waiting patiently. She was maybe 12 years old, with dark long hair. In this girl, I saw great qualities and specifically, energy flow. I saw appreciation, respect and patience. (She was cute.) She looked pretty and shy and sweet. These were pure qualities and there was a pure energy flowing through the girl. I imagined that she was likely from a nearby Native American community and probably just came for a ride with her dad to get gas.

She stayed more than five feet back from the counter, even though there was only one customer in front of her. Just in case someone needed to walk through that area, she gave them plenty of space. I noticed the respect she had for her experience in the store and the respect she had for the other customers. She had her drink in one hand and two dollars in the other while she waited in line.

Maybe, before she entered the store, she had that moment of excitement knowing she could go buy something new. Maybe she asked her father if she could get something from the store. She had that moment of hopefulness and anticipation of how Dad would respond to her request. Her Dad’s positive response was met by sweetness and thankfulness. She would journey into the store by herself, seeing all the products for sale and looking at the bright colors, before she chose her drink.

She was gentle and took great care that her experience stayed special. I took a moment to wonder what went through her mind when she looked at all the products when deciding what to choose for her drink. Coke? Pepsi? Orange juice? Iced Tea? What would she decide on? She had all the options in the world, and the choice was all hers.

I grabbed my beverage and got in line behind her. Funny thing, I stood about five feet back while she made her transaction. I guess I unconsciously followed the example she set for me, with her pure and truthful energy. She inspired those same qualities in me.

I wished at that moment that I could be the cashier. I wanted the chance to say something nice to her, because she was so appreciative of her purchase. She was excited and thrilled, just to be able to buy a can of Arizona Iced Tea. She was filled with a good feeling.

Arizona Iced Teas are only .99. She gave the cashier two dollars and began walking toward the door. “Wait, you have change,” the cashier called out to her. She even got a dollar back, that she could give back to her dad. She was proud. She acted like the whole experience was no big deal, but her expressions of energy showed how beautiful it was for her.

Her emotions and expressions of energy were flowing and beautiful. Before she went entered the store, she had excitement, anticipation and hope to give herself something new. It would make her feel deserving and special. She was perhaps a little bit humble when she may have thought, “Oops, I gave you a dollar too much. Hey, I’m new at this, but I don’t want to appear new. I’m just happy to have my drink.”

I hope she enjoyed her drink and had a great ride home, with a smile on her face.

I love people, and I love to see great emotions like this. The feeling I get, the appreciation I get, the smile I get when I see something like this shows me how my own energy can flow. What do you have that allows your energy to flow? This young lady had a precious, beautiful energy flowing through her. I hope she can maintain it forever. It gave me a good feeling of energy flow. It’s good energy.

So, if you ask what energy is, this is the very tip of the iceberg. It flows powerfully and uncontrollably.

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Positive flow

It takes a lot of our own effort to suppress the flow of our energy! It takes massive effort. We will gain more of our own internal power when we learn to stop resisting the flow. We have to learn how to stop pushing it back and get into positive flow of energy. We believe that negative energy exists but we are the ones that create it through our own resistance.

Examples of positive energy flow are all over. There was a girl of about seven years old who came into my store. She immediately looked on the floor for change for some reason. She didn’t find any change on the floor. I said to her, “you know if you look in this candy section a lot of times the customers drop their change right in it! And if you look maybe you can find some.” She got excited and looked. She went through the Twix bars, the Mounds and the Almond Joys. Her Dad was over in the coffee section and she looked at him. While she turned away, I sprinkled .65 in different boxes.

She turned back around and kept looking in the boxes. Her eyes lit up when she found a dime! Then she found a quarter. She smiled so brightly and looked at me. That is beautiful excitement and those are feelings that feel good. This is good energy. It is energy flow. Excitement is good energy flow. There is no hidden meaning. Just look at the energy flow though the excitement. There is no blame. There is no anger. There is happiness and positive energy flow.

Good energy is a flow and can be a rush. “It’s right there.” Let’s grab it! All of us can creatively bring it out in other people too. The more we do that, the more powerful our planet will be. This is where synergism happens. The flow is happiness, health, intelligence and well being. The process to trace back and locate negative energy is something which we learn in Goodology.

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Friday, August 27, 2010

Perception

A guy built a new house overlooking a river. His back yard and view of the river was nice. His only complaint was that on the other side of the river you could see the trailer park. In his view, the trailer park was disgusting. It ruined his view. He grumbled even though it was he that decided to build the house there. And, in truth, it is the guy's perception of the trailer park is disgusting. That is a view that he created.

You perceive your world. It's not real. It's your perception. Two people's perceptions of the same event could be different. Our world is a mirror of what is going on inside of us. Our perception determines what something is. The trailer park is beautiful. At the very least, the trailer park is what it is. But, the people in the trailer park are beautiful. At the very least they are people trying to survive. It is your perception that may not be.

I like the trailer park. I have a lot of friends in the trailer park. I see kids playing. I see trees. I see a lot of pets. I see water. It is true that many people in the trailer park tend to feed their needs. But, they are all beautiful at heart for sure. Whichever way you perceive it is “good” just notice the energy inside. That is where your own sludge begins.

If you see negativity, then you are bringing up slow moving energy within and labeling it that way. Be honest. It is honesty within that will free you and make you stronger. Picture something that is distasteful to you something disgusting. How does that make you feel? It is your feeling that makes you react the way that you do. Think about it if that feeling was not there. Then certain disgusting images would repulse you less and, at the very least, trailer parks would be beautiful

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Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Be thankful

Throughout the day in my business I am asked, "how are you?" dozens of times! I answer in one word, "Great." How bad can it be? It's a beautiful day. I am thankful for so much. We are fortunate to have all that we have.

Instead of saying, "how are you?" to someone else, I start the conversation with, "it's a beautiful day." I do it all day, every day in my store. It's raining outside and cold, when someone says, "how are you?" I answer, "on a day like today, how could I complain?" I remember many times just walking outside in the rain thinking, 'ah this is nice. It's a beautiful day."

I'm not talking about the weather, always either. On a sunny day, I say, "it's a beautiful day!" and the person replies, "yeah it's pretty nice out there." I'm not talking about "out there." More, I am talking about "in there." It's beautiful inside you. Feel it. The more you feel it, the more you will express it.

I was surprised to see how many people commented negatively on 2009. As bad as things are, they are still pretty good. The more you focus on the good, the more you will manifest the good. We are so fortunate to have what we have.

Each year one in 50 kids experiences homelessness. http://homelessness.change.org/blog/view/homeless_children_in_their_own_words