by Apple Goodthree
How special it is to see a child smile.
Most of the kids in the school are homeless or have recently experienced it. One of the most precious people on the planet is a fourth grader named Angel.
The first thing I noticed about Angel is overwhelming extreme shyness. Or maybe it was simply quietness. She's healthy and not bashful about getting up to sharpen her pencil or get the books she needs but in conversation she is very timid. The words barely, ever so barely, come out of her mouth. I asked her what her name is. She had to repeat herself a few times until I understood it.
In observing the class, I noticed that she was behind on her multiplication tables. I knew I could help. I asked Angel, "what is two times two?" She looks straight ahead. I can subtly see her mind working. She was patient thinking. After many moments of pause, she every so quietly and gently said the answer sounding like a very young child pronouncing her r's "wrong". She said so barely as a question, "foa".
Once when she was in line for lunch with the other kids, I saw her smile and have a moment of silliness. This is a good thing. When I talked to her at lunch, she was reserved with short very quiet one-word answers. A week later, I worked again with her and another girl in the fourth grade. We worked in the times tables again in a separate classroom.
Angel was ahead of the other girl who had missed months of school. Still in 4th grade, each girl is well behind. We built, we practiced and we got better at multiplication. Still Angel was quiet. But she was getting it. She was building confidence. She knew it. I asked the girls what color the wall was. They both answered, "Yellow!" I said, you will be able to answer your times tables with the same quickness soon.
Yesterday I had a chance to practice with them again. Angel really moved ahead. Going through the 5's tables gains momentum and confidence. She was cookin'. The other girl has trouble adding. So, it's all practice. Repetition will make them stronger.
Also the connection with an adult that is supportive helps. Gym class was later. We were late because of our arithmetic session, so we walked out to gym. I stuck around as gym class in this school has no real organization in P.E, though there was a theme for today and it was volleyball. Long story short, I was volleying with another classmate. Angel (who usually sits by herself at recess) came over. I tossed the ball to her.
She might be the smallest girl in the class but she's tough. She has more coordination than she may have given herself credit for and was able to volley the ball. It was a confidence building because I had not seen her interact like this. She has a SMILE on her face for the whole gym class. She was having so much fun with the three other girls volleying. We spent the whole class volleying and retrieving our bad shots. Then she brought the volleyball to the basketball hoop and shot for a few minutes. When it was time to line up, I had a question about gathering the kids because the gym teacher was gone. Also, the classroom teacher was not there.
I am not much of a yeller, so I asked one of the louder fourth graders if they could help me gather up the 18 other students to line up for class. Well right on queue, Angel must have heard me make that request because she yelled and yelled loudly. She shouted different classmates names. MICHEALA! I paused, amazed. She then bellowed out, SALLY! It was amazing that this girl who had been so quiet was now expressing herself like this. It was a help to me. I had a good day.
How special it is to see a child smile... and express themselves!
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Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Tuesday, January 29, 2013
Elementary Education Desire for Success
by Apple Goodthree
I asked a kid the other day in the 4th grade class a question. He was doing math problems at lunch. It was a test and teachers are not supposed to help on a test. Still, I helped. I was breaking down a multiplication table. Somehow, the question came up where I said, "what does 60 + 3 equal?"
The child looked to the right, thinking. He continued to think for a moment and said, "uh, 50!?"
This kid is a great kid. He is healthy. His mind works fine. He is cute as a button. He is also one of the coolest kids in school. I wish I could mention his name - he's even got a cool name.
I think when you challenge a child, they appreciate it. When you support them, they appreciate it. When I sat with him to support him with his math problem, it was important to him. When he responded with his answer of, "50," he was hoping so much that he got it right. He wanted to impress me. He wanted the instruction to continue.
Yesterday he stayed in from recess. He's a good little basketball player by the way so recess is a place where he feels success, confidence and joy. With that point, let me emphasize that he's coordinated. He's healthy. He can learn anything. I think learning disabilities are overrated and over publicized.
Nonetheless, inside at recess we talked. He asked me a question about Facebook. I told him I had a page for a book that I have written. He said with awe, "you wrote a book?" A girl that was sitting there said, "are you famous?" Then the cool kid asked where I lived. I told him Massachusetts. Sadly, better than ninety percent of these kids don't even know they live in Arizona (geography, a future project).
Anyway, the cool kid said, "you want to be a teacher?" I said, "yes." He wondered why. And he asked where I wanted to teach. I said, if I teach it will be at this school or a school like it. He said, "yeah, but isn't this school poor?"
I was just preparing my answer so he could understand how "rich" these kids really are. As I said, they are healthy. They are strong. They don't have learning disabilities. They have wonderful teachers and administrators that care. These kids have raw ability that is not, usually, influenced by parents. They are their own people. Their "I cans" are their own.
But, the class and the teachers entered.
Still, this child now has some desire from a different angle. With that desire, he builds confidence in different activities. He gives himself reasons and a connection. This prompts him to put in the effort. He accomplishes. He expands.
But, I have been in this class for a few weeks. This child usually doesn't do the work. He just sits there and day dreams, sharpens his pencil and asks to go to the bathroom a lot. His homework is not done. He's no bother in class, really. He smiles. He's happy. Somewhere inside, he has the impression he was unable to perform certain school work. Or, he's bored. Or, he was not challenged. Or, he didn't have the desire.
So, yesterday, there was an afternoon assignment to create an invitation to their parents (or guardian, grandparent, etc because these are homeless kids it's not always the same). Fifteen or twenty times he asked me to come over and help him. Mostly those requests were just for the connection - so I could see how he was doing. I only gave him small guidance each time but it was structured and move him forward.
He created a rough draft invitation to his parents that had spacing, structure and excellent handwriting. He, then, made the real copy on a stronger card stock paper. It was awesome. I told him how excellent it was again and again. I said the same thing to all the kids and each hears it themselves.
I urged the boy to show his work to the teacher. When he did, the teacher nodded and nodded again. The teacher showed encouragement and then said, "you have great handwriting." The student walked away from the teacher's desk filled with pride and success. I gave him a 'thumbs up' sign. He smiled.
These successes are how kids build. Today, I hope to be able to work with him on his multiplication tables. He'll be up to speed in no time. Well, we might have to get over that addition hump of 60 + 3. We will.
UPDATE: Today when I went to the school, he was the first one I saw. He excitedly and proudly told me that they are using his invitation as a model for others. His invitation is in the principal's office. :-)
I asked a kid the other day in the 4th grade class a question. He was doing math problems at lunch. It was a test and teachers are not supposed to help on a test. Still, I helped. I was breaking down a multiplication table. Somehow, the question came up where I said, "what does 60 + 3 equal?"
The child looked to the right, thinking. He continued to think for a moment and said, "uh, 50!?"
This kid is a great kid. He is healthy. His mind works fine. He is cute as a button. He is also one of the coolest kids in school. I wish I could mention his name - he's even got a cool name.
I think when you challenge a child, they appreciate it. When you support them, they appreciate it. When I sat with him to support him with his math problem, it was important to him. When he responded with his answer of, "50," he was hoping so much that he got it right. He wanted to impress me. He wanted the instruction to continue.
Yesterday he stayed in from recess. He's a good little basketball player by the way so recess is a place where he feels success, confidence and joy. With that point, let me emphasize that he's coordinated. He's healthy. He can learn anything. I think learning disabilities are overrated and over publicized.
Nonetheless, inside at recess we talked. He asked me a question about Facebook. I told him I had a page for a book that I have written. He said with awe, "you wrote a book?" A girl that was sitting there said, "are you famous?" Then the cool kid asked where I lived. I told him Massachusetts. Sadly, better than ninety percent of these kids don't even know they live in Arizona (geography, a future project).
Anyway, the cool kid said, "you want to be a teacher?" I said, "yes." He wondered why. And he asked where I wanted to teach. I said, if I teach it will be at this school or a school like it. He said, "yeah, but isn't this school poor?"
I was just preparing my answer so he could understand how "rich" these kids really are. As I said, they are healthy. They are strong. They don't have learning disabilities. They have wonderful teachers and administrators that care. These kids have raw ability that is not, usually, influenced by parents. They are their own people. Their "I cans" are their own.
But, the class and the teachers entered.
Still, this child now has some desire from a different angle. With that desire, he builds confidence in different activities. He gives himself reasons and a connection. This prompts him to put in the effort. He accomplishes. He expands.
But, I have been in this class for a few weeks. This child usually doesn't do the work. He just sits there and day dreams, sharpens his pencil and asks to go to the bathroom a lot. His homework is not done. He's no bother in class, really. He smiles. He's happy. Somewhere inside, he has the impression he was unable to perform certain school work. Or, he's bored. Or, he was not challenged. Or, he didn't have the desire.
So, yesterday, there was an afternoon assignment to create an invitation to their parents (or guardian, grandparent, etc because these are homeless kids it's not always the same). Fifteen or twenty times he asked me to come over and help him. Mostly those requests were just for the connection - so I could see how he was doing. I only gave him small guidance each time but it was structured and move him forward.
He created a rough draft invitation to his parents that had spacing, structure and excellent handwriting. He, then, made the real copy on a stronger card stock paper. It was awesome. I told him how excellent it was again and again. I said the same thing to all the kids and each hears it themselves.
I urged the boy to show his work to the teacher. When he did, the teacher nodded and nodded again. The teacher showed encouragement and then said, "you have great handwriting." The student walked away from the teacher's desk filled with pride and success. I gave him a 'thumbs up' sign. He smiled.
These successes are how kids build. Today, I hope to be able to work with him on his multiplication tables. He'll be up to speed in no time. Well, we might have to get over that addition hump of 60 + 3. We will.
UPDATE: Today when I went to the school, he was the first one I saw. He excitedly and proudly told me that they are using his invitation as a model for others. His invitation is in the principal's office. :-)
Friday, January 25, 2013
The Greatest Currency
I refer to and write about something that I call, "the greatest currency," often. What do you think when I say, "the greatest currency?" Do you think of money? Do you think of an electrical charge? Do you think of water flowing down a river?
Currency. What do you think about?
Well, in the Goodology book and my writing, the currency is movement of energy within you. This exercise increases your power of attraction and it increases all the good in your life. Like attracts like. So, what about the greatest currency? Maybe this is an activity that inspires energy flow and energy movement within.
Doing something you enjoy increases your energy flow. On one extreme laughter "is" energy flow. Smiling shows energy flow within. These are the mirrors to your soul. The more you live in these states, the more synergy (truths matching) exists. Putting yourself in places of joy increases synergy.
As I have written about, a great currency for me is working with the homeless children. I love it. I see absolute potential in these kids. They are raw power, intelligence and beauty. When you match that with attention, care and just being there, these attributes naturally flow out in the children.
This is a great currency for me. What is a great currency for you?
Read about the greatest currency here on Amazon in the book called, "Goodology - Personal Development Through Good."
Currency. What do you think about?
Well, in the Goodology book and my writing, the currency is movement of energy within you. This exercise increases your power of attraction and it increases all the good in your life. Like attracts like. So, what about the greatest currency? Maybe this is an activity that inspires energy flow and energy movement within.
Doing something you enjoy increases your energy flow. On one extreme laughter "is" energy flow. Smiling shows energy flow within. These are the mirrors to your soul. The more you live in these states, the more synergy (truths matching) exists. Putting yourself in places of joy increases synergy.
As I have written about, a great currency for me is working with the homeless children. I love it. I see absolute potential in these kids. They are raw power, intelligence and beauty. When you match that with attention, care and just being there, these attributes naturally flow out in the children.
This is a great currency for me. What is a great currency for you?
Read about the greatest currency here on Amazon in the book called, "Goodology - Personal Development Through Good."
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Love
We’ve heard it all before. All love is self-love. So what’s the problem? There is still anger out there. There is still hate. There is fear. You still have frustration.
You hear that God is love. They say that love is everywhere. God is everywhere. Then why are we not all happy? It's because we have a resistance to it. Let’s try this. If you remove your resistance to love, then what is left? Love and only love. So, "you" can be the one to get started. Initiate love. Be the first to send love. This action breaks down the walls and barriers in our world. This is going to dissolve wars and hate. Soon.
You say, “Yeah but this guy is really an idiot." Then you really need to increase your love and your flow. Respect everyone. Begin by respecting your energy within. Respect yourself. You say, "No, but seriously, 'this guy' is a real idiot. He's the definition of idiot. Where is the label coming from? Your feeling inside.
The “idiots” of the world are acting from their own fears within. They are pushed, driven and goaded to act a certain way based on sludge and fear they have inside. Sometimes it comes out dorky. Sometimes they seem like a dufus. Appreciate them anyway. Sometimes it comes out angry. Appreciate them anyway. When you locate your energy within and appreciate them, you grow.
A way to increase your love is to give it. When you give, you unconsciously realize that there is not a finite supply. You realize that you “don’t need to hang on.” You can give and love will be replenished. You can give without wanting to receive. When we take off the scab of the temporary fill, we allow air to flow into our wound (or resistance). When that healing energy connects with it, we are stronger.
When you locate your own resistance within, you have connected with power. The following is a difficult concept for some folks to handle, but a child molester has problems. Love him. Respect him. His acts are not good, but at a core level he is good. He began his life “good.” We “know” his actions are not good. Love him anyway. Love your energy. Hope for him. Wish good for him. We are not going to move ahead as a society until we increase our energy flow and compassion inside. You say that you love everyone but you draw the line at child molesters.
The child molester may have been seriously abused when he was a child. But “that” is not the reason you should love him. That is not the reason you should love yourself. Yes, being molested as a child, doesn’t make his actions right, but he has lots of compressed energy within. You are not approving or disapproving acts. Love “your” own energy within first. Send out love to these people. It is like sending our prayer and hope for them to get better. Send love. The more love you send the more powerful you become.
Again, if you remove the resistance to it, all that is left is LOVE. At a spiritual seminar they discuss love throughout the whole weekend. People want “unconditional love.” Love is the answer. But, people leave that seminar in the same condition that they entered. So, what’s the problem? The never touch their resistance.
I am not here to define love because there is no definition. Love is the most abundant element on the planet. Love is everything. Love is the limited and the limitless. Definitions of love are around us. Love is flowing. Love is detachment. Love is infinite. Love is all intelligence. Love is all power and all energy. Love is everywhere. We are surrounded in it. We bathe in it daily. We touch it. It touches us. Love kisses us. It moves through us. It “is” us. Love is positive. Love is flowing. Love is infinite power, infinite intelligence, infinite compassion and infinite everything. But, mostly it is infinite flow. Love is energy.
Love is the slowly moving energy within you. When you love this energy is when you begin to grow. Move away from “intellectually” understanding what love is. Feel it. Let it flow through you. So, if we are not connected to it, then we have a resistance to it. We need to specifically locate our resistance within and clear it. When we do that, the only thing left is love. We know that a slight resistance is the simple separation. When we continue to notice this and reconnect with it, we are reconnecting with love. We will specifically locate the energy within us; know it is love and only love.
You can tell yourself that you love you all day long. It will have some effect. But, if the sludge is still there, you’ll either give up with putting notes on the bathroom mirror for yourself or you just won’t feel the love. Love is not a “thing,” nor does it feed a specific part of us. We realize by now that we have to get out of our head and become whole. This is not an intellectual pursuit nor is this soap opera type love. The flow of love is outward. It is unselfish and flowing toward another person or object. It is all yes and all positive. There is no “no” in love. Loving a child is a healthy energy flow. When you respect it is flowing positively. When you appreciate, it’s positive.
The primary message here is to know the flow of love. Writing has filled up books defining love and unconditional love.
Let’s go to http://www.dictionary.com/ again! This is what we have:
love/
–noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
6. a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7. sexual intercourse; copulation.
8. ( initial capital letter ) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.
9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.
11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
12. the benevolent affection of god for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
13. Chiefly Tennis . a score of zero; nothing.
14. a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L.
Depending on how you perceive the definitions, there are eight forms of soap opera type love. Passionate affection, personal attachment, sexual desire, a love affair, sexual intercourse, sexual affection, affection for others, and other forms of love are mentioned “before” God’s Love: “the benevolent affection of god for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.”
Love in our world is “feeding the pain inside.” It’s feeding the sludge. Unfortunately, this has become our “most desired state.” It’s good because it touches are area inside that doesn’t get touched much. It touches an area that we keep safe under lock and key. It feels good to have this touched. But, it just gives us medicinal dosages of “love,” which is just attention, approval and so on.
To increase our health and wholeness love people as God does. If someone acts like an idiot, we can move past that and love them. Remember, if “they” act like an idiot, it is “your” inside that is stirred up. It is “your” energy. Perceiving them as an idiot allows you the opportunity to grow and increase strength.
Maybe you grew up with your Dad calling you, “chum” and your Mom saying, “I love you” each day before you left for school. Some people didn’t. What about the baby that was tossed in the air and hit the ceiling? What about the baby that was dropped? What about the baby that was whipped before he was two years old?
What about the child who was called a worthless piece of crap daily while growing up? You feel for these kids. But, an adult why do we stop feeling for them? You say, “the adult should know better.” Inside of this adult is compressed energy that is “current” within them. It is stored inside of them. At some point, they are going to lash out. These are problems that “exist” and can’t be suppressed or avoided.
True love never fails.
This could be an automatic let down because your sludge exists. You are honest and truthful. So, you say, what do you mean? It failed me. “True love never fails,” are just words. Flow is love. Letting go is love. Connecting with your deepest inside and flowing. That is love. It’s simple. You don’t have to work hard. You just need to connect inside and love that feeling within you. Send that feeling out again and again. It replenishes.
You are thinking that love needs to come from the outside to connect with, calm or heal your “own” hurt inside. The true love must come from within. It comes from noticing and connecting with your own sludge. You initiate the flow.
Love is bliss and power.
Sure, but if you are jam packed with sludge, then this statement will fail you too. All of these statements can be made. It all can be said. But, what does it do? You are holding onto your energy and resisting your power. So, you cut off your power and use a small portion of it to understand the statement that says, “Love is bliss and power.” You go oh and ah, thinking you are transforming but nothing has happened except having some candy.
I have a habit at night before I go to bed. I pick someone who I “don’t like,” or I pick someone who has done something which I don’t like. I send love to that person. I feel the energy that gets stirred "within me" when I think him or her. If I use the term, “scumbag” then I send love to him or her and realize that the “only” place the label “scumbag” is created is within me. So, it is my responsibility to clear it, connect with it and turn it into positive energy and love.
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You hear that God is love. They say that love is everywhere. God is everywhere. Then why are we not all happy? It's because we have a resistance to it. Let’s try this. If you remove your resistance to love, then what is left? Love and only love. So, "you" can be the one to get started. Initiate love. Be the first to send love. This action breaks down the walls and barriers in our world. This is going to dissolve wars and hate. Soon.
You say, “Yeah but this guy is really an idiot." Then you really need to increase your love and your flow. Respect everyone. Begin by respecting your energy within. Respect yourself. You say, "No, but seriously, 'this guy' is a real idiot. He's the definition of idiot. Where is the label coming from? Your feeling inside.
The “idiots” of the world are acting from their own fears within. They are pushed, driven and goaded to act a certain way based on sludge and fear they have inside. Sometimes it comes out dorky. Sometimes they seem like a dufus. Appreciate them anyway. Sometimes it comes out angry. Appreciate them anyway. When you locate your energy within and appreciate them, you grow.
A way to increase your love is to give it. When you give, you unconsciously realize that there is not a finite supply. You realize that you “don’t need to hang on.” You can give and love will be replenished. You can give without wanting to receive. When we take off the scab of the temporary fill, we allow air to flow into our wound (or resistance). When that healing energy connects with it, we are stronger.
When you locate your own resistance within, you have connected with power. The following is a difficult concept for some folks to handle, but a child molester has problems. Love him. Respect him. His acts are not good, but at a core level he is good. He began his life “good.” We “know” his actions are not good. Love him anyway. Love your energy. Hope for him. Wish good for him. We are not going to move ahead as a society until we increase our energy flow and compassion inside. You say that you love everyone but you draw the line at child molesters.
The child molester may have been seriously abused when he was a child. But “that” is not the reason you should love him. That is not the reason you should love yourself. Yes, being molested as a child, doesn’t make his actions right, but he has lots of compressed energy within. You are not approving or disapproving acts. Love “your” own energy within first. Send out love to these people. It is like sending our prayer and hope for them to get better. Send love. The more love you send the more powerful you become.
Again, if you remove the resistance to it, all that is left is LOVE. At a spiritual seminar they discuss love throughout the whole weekend. People want “unconditional love.” Love is the answer. But, people leave that seminar in the same condition that they entered. So, what’s the problem? The never touch their resistance.
I am not here to define love because there is no definition. Love is the most abundant element on the planet. Love is everything. Love is the limited and the limitless. Definitions of love are around us. Love is flowing. Love is detachment. Love is infinite. Love is all intelligence. Love is all power and all energy. Love is everywhere. We are surrounded in it. We bathe in it daily. We touch it. It touches us. Love kisses us. It moves through us. It “is” us. Love is positive. Love is flowing. Love is infinite power, infinite intelligence, infinite compassion and infinite everything. But, mostly it is infinite flow. Love is energy.
Love is the slowly moving energy within you. When you love this energy is when you begin to grow. Move away from “intellectually” understanding what love is. Feel it. Let it flow through you. So, if we are not connected to it, then we have a resistance to it. We need to specifically locate our resistance within and clear it. When we do that, the only thing left is love. We know that a slight resistance is the simple separation. When we continue to notice this and reconnect with it, we are reconnecting with love. We will specifically locate the energy within us; know it is love and only love.
You can tell yourself that you love you all day long. It will have some effect. But, if the sludge is still there, you’ll either give up with putting notes on the bathroom mirror for yourself or you just won’t feel the love. Love is not a “thing,” nor does it feed a specific part of us. We realize by now that we have to get out of our head and become whole. This is not an intellectual pursuit nor is this soap opera type love. The flow of love is outward. It is unselfish and flowing toward another person or object. It is all yes and all positive. There is no “no” in love. Loving a child is a healthy energy flow. When you respect it is flowing positively. When you appreciate, it’s positive.
The primary message here is to know the flow of love. Writing has filled up books defining love and unconditional love.
Let’s go to http://www.dictionary.com/ again! This is what we have:
love/
–noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
6. a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7. sexual intercourse; copulation.
8. ( initial capital letter ) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.
9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.
11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
12. the benevolent affection of god for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
13. Chiefly Tennis . a score of zero; nothing.
14. a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L.
Depending on how you perceive the definitions, there are eight forms of soap opera type love. Passionate affection, personal attachment, sexual desire, a love affair, sexual intercourse, sexual affection, affection for others, and other forms of love are mentioned “before” God’s Love: “the benevolent affection of god for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.”
Love in our world is “feeding the pain inside.” It’s feeding the sludge. Unfortunately, this has become our “most desired state.” It’s good because it touches are area inside that doesn’t get touched much. It touches an area that we keep safe under lock and key. It feels good to have this touched. But, it just gives us medicinal dosages of “love,” which is just attention, approval and so on.
To increase our health and wholeness love people as God does. If someone acts like an idiot, we can move past that and love them. Remember, if “they” act like an idiot, it is “your” inside that is stirred up. It is “your” energy. Perceiving them as an idiot allows you the opportunity to grow and increase strength.
Maybe you grew up with your Dad calling you, “chum” and your Mom saying, “I love you” each day before you left for school. Some people didn’t. What about the baby that was tossed in the air and hit the ceiling? What about the baby that was dropped? What about the baby that was whipped before he was two years old?
What about the child who was called a worthless piece of crap daily while growing up? You feel for these kids. But, an adult why do we stop feeling for them? You say, “the adult should know better.” Inside of this adult is compressed energy that is “current” within them. It is stored inside of them. At some point, they are going to lash out. These are problems that “exist” and can’t be suppressed or avoided.
True love never fails.
This could be an automatic let down because your sludge exists. You are honest and truthful. So, you say, what do you mean? It failed me. “True love never fails,” are just words. Flow is love. Letting go is love. Connecting with your deepest inside and flowing. That is love. It’s simple. You don’t have to work hard. You just need to connect inside and love that feeling within you. Send that feeling out again and again. It replenishes.
You are thinking that love needs to come from the outside to connect with, calm or heal your “own” hurt inside. The true love must come from within. It comes from noticing and connecting with your own sludge. You initiate the flow.
Love is bliss and power.
Sure, but if you are jam packed with sludge, then this statement will fail you too. All of these statements can be made. It all can be said. But, what does it do? You are holding onto your energy and resisting your power. So, you cut off your power and use a small portion of it to understand the statement that says, “Love is bliss and power.” You go oh and ah, thinking you are transforming but nothing has happened except having some candy.
I have a habit at night before I go to bed. I pick someone who I “don’t like,” or I pick someone who has done something which I don’t like. I send love to that person. I feel the energy that gets stirred "within me" when I think him or her. If I use the term, “scumbag” then I send love to him or her and realize that the “only” place the label “scumbag” is created is within me. So, it is my responsibility to clear it, connect with it and turn it into positive energy and love.
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Monday, November 15, 2010
Powerful
This is hard to watch, but it these are situations which we need to embrace and give. I love the kids, Sam and Esther, in this video and I love the girl Jane in this video. I write about Jane's example of intelligence, love and beautiful spirit. Watch the one minute follow up video also.
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About a year later here is Jane, so sweet and beautiful. She looks healthy and happy.
Jane about one year later.
One of the reasons that I posted these videos is to illustrate a point, which is in Jane's energy. Jane didn’t complain. She did not regret. She did not blame her parents for not being there. She only showed energy flow, beauty and positivity. She is love. She is caring. She is unafraid. She is responsible. She is not feeding “negative” energy.
Jane didn’t wake up and prepare herself for a film crew coming in. She had no idea. She “only” loved, supported and “was” beauty. She lived her life with the beautiful energy that she is. She is the most beautiful girl in the world with her energy flowing.
We all have the same energy within us. Let us all reconnect and look up to Jane. Let us model the beauty of Jane. Let us model the strength of Jane. One year later after some generous donations, Sam and Esther were stabilized, well fed and their polio was being taken care of. Jane is in school learning, but now smiling with an amazingly sweet smile and happiness.
Underneath, we all have this energy. We need to connect with it. Religions argue "specific points" and interpretations of this beautiful energy (Spirit, God, Universe, Source or whatever you call it). A lot of damage has been done by bickering about interpretations of something beautiful.
Our first step is to locate our own energy within. Even if you are watching the cable news shows and their energy is angry and non-problem solving, locate your own energy. Jane provides solutions without ego. Become powerful yourself. Connect with your own beauty - no excuses, no blame, no regret - just like Jane.
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About a year later here is Jane, so sweet and beautiful. She looks healthy and happy.
Jane about one year later.
One of the reasons that I posted these videos is to illustrate a point, which is in Jane's energy. Jane didn’t complain. She did not regret. She did not blame her parents for not being there. She only showed energy flow, beauty and positivity. She is love. She is caring. She is unafraid. She is responsible. She is not feeding “negative” energy.
Jane didn’t wake up and prepare herself for a film crew coming in. She had no idea. She “only” loved, supported and “was” beauty. She lived her life with the beautiful energy that she is. She is the most beautiful girl in the world with her energy flowing.
We all have the same energy within us. Let us all reconnect and look up to Jane. Let us model the beauty of Jane. Let us model the strength of Jane. One year later after some generous donations, Sam and Esther were stabilized, well fed and their polio was being taken care of. Jane is in school learning, but now smiling with an amazingly sweet smile and happiness.
Underneath, we all have this energy. We need to connect with it. Religions argue "specific points" and interpretations of this beautiful energy (Spirit, God, Universe, Source or whatever you call it). A lot of damage has been done by bickering about interpretations of something beautiful.
Our first step is to locate our own energy within. Even if you are watching the cable news shows and their energy is angry and non-problem solving, locate your own energy. Jane provides solutions without ego. Become powerful yourself. Connect with your own beauty - no excuses, no blame, no regret - just like Jane.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Ray of sunshine
I always say that, "all of the energy in the world is good. Any perceived "negative" is only resistance to that good energy. So, in Goodology, there is a process where you specifically locate that resisted energy within you and turn it into a positive flow. You can see good energy everywhere. Reinstall it inside of yourself.
My brother volunteered me as a coach for one of his baseball teams. He has scout teams which involve kids ages 12 to 18. All of these kids will go on to play college ball, many will play minor league ball and there could even be a major leaguer or two in there. They are talented and driven to excel.
Most of the time the kids are serious and focused on the game. They support the pitcher, the hitter and their teammates from the bench. My group was 13 and 14 years olds. At thirteen years old, you cannot be serious all the time. I really hadn’t seen Justin smile before. He was a catcher and always focused on the game.
We sat on the bench when the team was on defense and Justin was not in the game. He put a wet white towel under his hat. At 106 degrees in Phoenix, you can do things like that. And you should do things like that! He was looking to the left at his teammates with a white towel hanging under his hat below his ears. To them it just looked funny and he got some laughs. They got silly for a moment. When Justin turned to me, I saw him; his teeth were as white as the towel and his smile was as bright as the Phoenix sun.
For that moment, Justin’s smile was flowing energy through his body. It was pure energy. Look at that smile. He was glowing for a moment. There was “no” negative energy in his body. It was healthy. Be silly. Appreciate silly. Laugh. Appreciate laughter. Justin’s smile had nothing to do with a TV sitcom sex joke. It was nothing that would make him feel older or younger. It was pure energy and purely nice to see. “That” is healthy.
Notice incidents like this in your world. Locate any resisted energy within you and turn it to good.
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My brother volunteered me as a coach for one of his baseball teams. He has scout teams which involve kids ages 12 to 18. All of these kids will go on to play college ball, many will play minor league ball and there could even be a major leaguer or two in there. They are talented and driven to excel.
Most of the time the kids are serious and focused on the game. They support the pitcher, the hitter and their teammates from the bench. My group was 13 and 14 years olds. At thirteen years old, you cannot be serious all the time. I really hadn’t seen Justin smile before. He was a catcher and always focused on the game.
We sat on the bench when the team was on defense and Justin was not in the game. He put a wet white towel under his hat. At 106 degrees in Phoenix, you can do things like that. And you should do things like that! He was looking to the left at his teammates with a white towel hanging under his hat below his ears. To them it just looked funny and he got some laughs. They got silly for a moment. When Justin turned to me, I saw him; his teeth were as white as the towel and his smile was as bright as the Phoenix sun.
For that moment, Justin’s smile was flowing energy through his body. It was pure energy. Look at that smile. He was glowing for a moment. There was “no” negative energy in his body. It was healthy. Be silly. Appreciate silly. Laugh. Appreciate laughter. Justin’s smile had nothing to do with a TV sitcom sex joke. It was nothing that would make him feel older or younger. It was pure energy and purely nice to see. “That” is healthy.
Notice incidents like this in your world. Locate any resisted energy within you and turn it to good.
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Saturday, November 13, 2010
More good energy
I was in a convenience store near my home in Fountain Hills, Arizona. I noticed a young girl waiting patiently. She was maybe 12 years old, with dark long hair. In this girl, I saw great qualities and specifically, energy flow. I saw appreciation, respect and patience. (She was cute.) She looked pretty and shy and sweet. These were pure qualities and there was a pure energy flowing through the girl. I imagined that she was likely from a nearby Native American community and probably just came for a ride with her dad to get gas.
She stayed more than five feet back from the counter, even though there was only one customer in front of her. Just in case someone needed to walk through that area, she gave them plenty of space. I noticed the respect she had for her experience in the store and the respect she had for the other customers. She had her drink in one hand and two dollars in the other while she waited in line.
Maybe, before she entered the store, she had that moment of excitement knowing she could go buy something new. Maybe she asked her father if she could get something from the store. She had that moment of hopefulness and anticipation of how Dad would respond to her request. Her Dad’s positive response was met by sweetness and thankfulness. She would journey into the store by herself, seeing all the products for sale and looking at the bright colors, before she chose her drink.
She was gentle and took great care that her experience stayed special. I took a moment to wonder what went through her mind when she looked at all the products when deciding what to choose for her drink. Coke? Pepsi? Orange juice? Iced Tea? What would she decide on? She had all the options in the world, and the choice was all hers.
I grabbed my beverage and got in line behind her. Funny thing, I stood about five feet back while she made her transaction. I guess I unconsciously followed the example she set for me, with her pure and truthful energy. She inspired those same qualities in me.
I wished at that moment that I could be the cashier. I wanted the chance to say something nice to her, because she was so appreciative of her purchase. She was excited and thrilled, just to be able to buy a can of Arizona Iced Tea. She was filled with a good feeling.
Arizona Iced Teas are only .99. She gave the cashier two dollars and began walking toward the door. “Wait, you have change,” the cashier called out to her. She even got a dollar back, that she could give back to her dad. She was proud. She acted like the whole experience was no big deal, but her expressions of energy showed how beautiful it was for her.
Her emotions and expressions of energy were flowing and beautiful. Before she went entered the store, she had excitement, anticipation and hope to give herself something new. It would make her feel deserving and special. She was perhaps a little bit humble when she may have thought, “Oops, I gave you a dollar too much. Hey, I’m new at this, but I don’t want to appear new. I’m just happy to have my drink.”
I hope she enjoyed her drink and had a great ride home, with a smile on her face.
I love people, and I love to see great emotions like this. The feeling I get, the appreciation I get, the smile I get when I see something like this shows me how my own energy can flow. What do you have that allows your energy to flow? This young lady had a precious, beautiful energy flowing through her. I hope she can maintain it forever. It gave me a good feeling of energy flow. It’s good energy.
So, if you ask what energy is, this is the very tip of the iceberg. It flows powerfully and uncontrollably.
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She stayed more than five feet back from the counter, even though there was only one customer in front of her. Just in case someone needed to walk through that area, she gave them plenty of space. I noticed the respect she had for her experience in the store and the respect she had for the other customers. She had her drink in one hand and two dollars in the other while she waited in line.
Maybe, before she entered the store, she had that moment of excitement knowing she could go buy something new. Maybe she asked her father if she could get something from the store. She had that moment of hopefulness and anticipation of how Dad would respond to her request. Her Dad’s positive response was met by sweetness and thankfulness. She would journey into the store by herself, seeing all the products for sale and looking at the bright colors, before she chose her drink.
She was gentle and took great care that her experience stayed special. I took a moment to wonder what went through her mind when she looked at all the products when deciding what to choose for her drink. Coke? Pepsi? Orange juice? Iced Tea? What would she decide on? She had all the options in the world, and the choice was all hers.
I grabbed my beverage and got in line behind her. Funny thing, I stood about five feet back while she made her transaction. I guess I unconsciously followed the example she set for me, with her pure and truthful energy. She inspired those same qualities in me.
I wished at that moment that I could be the cashier. I wanted the chance to say something nice to her, because she was so appreciative of her purchase. She was excited and thrilled, just to be able to buy a can of Arizona Iced Tea. She was filled with a good feeling.
Arizona Iced Teas are only .99. She gave the cashier two dollars and began walking toward the door. “Wait, you have change,” the cashier called out to her. She even got a dollar back, that she could give back to her dad. She was proud. She acted like the whole experience was no big deal, but her expressions of energy showed how beautiful it was for her.
Her emotions and expressions of energy were flowing and beautiful. Before she went entered the store, she had excitement, anticipation and hope to give herself something new. It would make her feel deserving and special. She was perhaps a little bit humble when she may have thought, “Oops, I gave you a dollar too much. Hey, I’m new at this, but I don’t want to appear new. I’m just happy to have my drink.”
I hope she enjoyed her drink and had a great ride home, with a smile on her face.
I love people, and I love to see great emotions like this. The feeling I get, the appreciation I get, the smile I get when I see something like this shows me how my own energy can flow. What do you have that allows your energy to flow? This young lady had a precious, beautiful energy flowing through her. I hope she can maintain it forever. It gave me a good feeling of energy flow. It’s good energy.
So, if you ask what energy is, this is the very tip of the iceberg. It flows powerfully and uncontrollably.
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Positive flow
It takes a lot of our own effort to suppress the flow of our energy! It takes massive effort. We will gain more of our own internal power when we learn to stop resisting the flow. We have to learn how to stop pushing it back and get into positive flow of energy. We believe that negative energy exists but we are the ones that create it through our own resistance.
Examples of positive energy flow are all over. There was a girl of about seven years old who came into my store. She immediately looked on the floor for change for some reason. She didn’t find any change on the floor. I said to her, “you know if you look in this candy section a lot of times the customers drop their change right in it! And if you look maybe you can find some.” She got excited and looked. She went through the Twix bars, the Mounds and the Almond Joys. Her Dad was over in the coffee section and she looked at him. While she turned away, I sprinkled .65 in different boxes.
She turned back around and kept looking in the boxes. Her eyes lit up when she found a dime! Then she found a quarter. She smiled so brightly and looked at me. That is beautiful excitement and those are feelings that feel good. This is good energy. It is energy flow. Excitement is good energy flow. There is no hidden meaning. Just look at the energy flow though the excitement. There is no blame. There is no anger. There is happiness and positive energy flow.
Good energy is a flow and can be a rush. “It’s right there.” Let’s grab it! All of us can creatively bring it out in other people too. The more we do that, the more powerful our planet will be. This is where synergism happens. The flow is happiness, health, intelligence and well being. The process to trace back and locate negative energy is something which we learn in Goodology.
Visit Goodology to buy the book.
Examples of positive energy flow are all over. There was a girl of about seven years old who came into my store. She immediately looked on the floor for change for some reason. She didn’t find any change on the floor. I said to her, “you know if you look in this candy section a lot of times the customers drop their change right in it! And if you look maybe you can find some.” She got excited and looked. She went through the Twix bars, the Mounds and the Almond Joys. Her Dad was over in the coffee section and she looked at him. While she turned away, I sprinkled .65 in different boxes.
She turned back around and kept looking in the boxes. Her eyes lit up when she found a dime! Then she found a quarter. She smiled so brightly and looked at me. That is beautiful excitement and those are feelings that feel good. This is good energy. It is energy flow. Excitement is good energy flow. There is no hidden meaning. Just look at the energy flow though the excitement. There is no blame. There is no anger. There is happiness and positive energy flow.
Good energy is a flow and can be a rush. “It’s right there.” Let’s grab it! All of us can creatively bring it out in other people too. The more we do that, the more powerful our planet will be. This is where synergism happens. The flow is happiness, health, intelligence and well being. The process to trace back and locate negative energy is something which we learn in Goodology.
Visit Goodology to buy the book.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Be thankful
Throughout the day in my business I am asked, "how are you?" dozens of times! I answer in one word, "Great." How bad can it be? It's a beautiful day. I am thankful for so much. We are fortunate to have all that we have.
Instead of saying, "how are you?" to someone else, I start the conversation with, "it's a beautiful day." I do it all day, every day in my store. It's raining outside and cold, when someone says, "how are you?" I answer, "on a day like today, how could I complain?" I remember many times just walking outside in the rain thinking, 'ah this is nice. It's a beautiful day."
I'm not talking about the weather, always either. On a sunny day, I say, "it's a beautiful day!" and the person replies, "yeah it's pretty nice out there." I'm not talking about "out there." More, I am talking about "in there." It's beautiful inside you. Feel it. The more you feel it, the more you will express it.
I was surprised to see how many people commented negatively on 2009. As bad as things are, they are still pretty good. The more you focus on the good, the more you will manifest the good. We are so fortunate to have what we have.
Each year one in 50 kids experiences homelessness. http://homelessness.change.org/blog/view/homeless_children_in_their_own_words
Instead of saying, "how are you?" to someone else, I start the conversation with, "it's a beautiful day." I do it all day, every day in my store. It's raining outside and cold, when someone says, "how are you?" I answer, "on a day like today, how could I complain?" I remember many times just walking outside in the rain thinking, 'ah this is nice. It's a beautiful day."
I'm not talking about the weather, always either. On a sunny day, I say, "it's a beautiful day!" and the person replies, "yeah it's pretty nice out there." I'm not talking about "out there." More, I am talking about "in there." It's beautiful inside you. Feel it. The more you feel it, the more you will express it.
I was surprised to see how many people commented negatively on 2009. As bad as things are, they are still pretty good. The more you focus on the good, the more you will manifest the good. We are so fortunate to have what we have.
Each year one in 50 kids experiences homelessness. http://homelessness.change.org/blog/view/homeless_children_in_their_own_words
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Goodology Credo
Goodology® is a study of energy. That is what it boils down to. All of the energy in the world is good. Any perceived “negative” energy comes from resistance to that good. Further, it boils down to "your" energy. All of your energy is good. Any perceived “negative” energy comes from your internal resistance to that good.
It is this point of resistance where our issues begin. Our lives and world are a reaction to that resistance. Locating, knowing and being intimate with that point of resistance is the beginning of our strength. That is the beginning of shifting the things that happen automatically in our lives.
Where is that energy? What is that energy? We need to locate this mass of energy inside of our body. It is slow energy that is limiting our connection with infinite power. We hold onto this energy for safety and become a reaction to our fears. Our lives become about feeding into our fears. We feed into a “negative” energy. The “good” energy has slowed down and appears negative. By feeding it we slow it down more and get more of the same in our lives.
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